These 3 Steps Teach You How To Success With Women Everywhere
If you know what women want in a man, then you are going to be a superstar when it comes to women. I mean it. Why? Simply because so few men do actually know what it is that women want!
I don’t want you to be what Neil Strauss, author of The Game, so aptly termed an Average Frustrated Chump – by which I mean, someone who struggles to be popular with women without ever really know how.
To be successful with women, you have to get inside their heads. Otherwise, you’ll spend your life thrashing around in the morass of uncertainty, perhaps fluking a success every now and then, but without really ever figuring out what you’re doing right.
The Time Has Come To End All That.
Today, I’m going to tell you three things that – once you’ve got them mastered – will have women eating out of your hand. They’re not difficult or even particularly demanding.
It’s just that most men don’t bother to find out, choosing instead to rely on their good looks/quick wit/wide shoulders to ensure success with women.
The best part: once you’ve got these four things mastered, you don’t NEED good looks. You don’t NEED any of the usual trappings of a “ladies’ man” – the square jaw, the sharp clothes, the post as managing director.
You just need to be able to look at things from a female perspective. Once you’ve got that down pat, the rest will be easy. We’ve already discussed what attracts females to men. That part’s easy. For all the info, check out Mystery Series
But what will keep them sticking around? What do you need to have that will make a woman want to KEEP spending time with you, KEEP investing effort into your relationship, and KEEP enjoying your company?
What Do Women Really Want In a Man?
It’s just that most men don’t have a clue or are simply too lazy to bother doing anything about it or, worse yet, THINK they know, but actually are just as average and frustrated as all the other chumps out there.
Some guys prefer to be complacent in their shortcomings. It’s common to hear things like, “She should just accept me as I am … if we were meant to be together, she’d like me to my real personality.
I don’t feel like I should have to change for anyone ” and so on when the subject of What Women Want comes up.
Well, guess what? That’s an ignorant and arrogant attitude to take. I’m not saying you need to contort your personality into new and bizarre shapes to please a woman – because that really WOULD be unhealthy.
Instead, I’m saying that you should be the best “you” that you can possibly be. That you should get your life in shape and order so that YOU are getting as much out of it as you possibly can.
That you should take care of yourself, and make sure your needs are being met and your wants are being fulfilled.
THAT is the kind of man that women want. A man who’s got his life sorted, who is happy and content in his own world, and who is open to the possibility of sharing that with somebody compatible.
That doesn’t sound too scary, does it? In fact, it sounds downright healthy. Appealing, even. So let’s take a further look at the four qualities that women find UNIVERSALLY appealing
1. Self-Confidence is King.
There really is just no getting past this one. Self-confidence forms the building blocks of any successful relationship. In any situation – doesn’t matter what it is the man with the most self-confidence will always win.
It’s infectious, and it’s highly attractive. Females like men who are sure of themselves. Need an example? Just think of ANY ‘dreamboat’ of a man that women drool openly over.
In fact, most of these men are admired by OTHER MEN, too – not in a romantic sense, but as a role model. Someone they aspire to be.
James Bond, for example – cool. Confident. In control. Women everywhere love Bond (and men everywhere want to BE Bond.) Just about any superhero – Batman. Or Superman.
Even Spiderman, nerdy little Tobey Maguire, managed to win the heart of sexy Mary-Jane. It wasn’t because he was sexy (oh, no!). It wasn’t because he was good-looking.
It wasn’t even because he was a superhero because he chose to keep that particular fact private. It was because, once he began to believe in himself, his whole aura changed – and he became irresistible to women.
Donald Trump is another fantastic example. Sure, he’s pretty disgusting PHYSICAL specimen of masculinity – but that just proves my point.
Does that greasy comb-over or middle-aged paunch matter when it comes to women? Not at all. Just look at some of the women he’s dated (and even married!).
And no, it’s not the money that’s formed the basis of his success with women – it’s his CONFIDENCE and POWER, the things that LED to his money, that females find attractive.
You just can’t get away from it. Self-confidence is the number-one attractive quality that a man can have. It supersedes ALL other characteristics.
If you have faith in yourself, think highly of yourself, and expect – not HOPE, but EXPECT – others to feel the same way, they will.
If you’re not a naturally confident kind of guy, don’t despair – just work on it. Here is the best place for you to start An entire book, dedicated to building self-confidence in EVERY situation. You won’t look back.
2. Mature Men are Hot. To ALL Women.
Sure, some guys have a boyish, devilish charm – James Dean, perhaps, or Leonardo DiCaprio. Guys with youthful, feminine faces (large eyes, delicate features), a hellcat’s take on life, and a penchant for hard liquor, fast cars, and fast women.
Most women will admit unashamedly that they fantasize about a night with one of these men – or maybe a dirty weekend.
But in Real Life, these types of guys don’t get much further than a second look. Females aren’t attracted to men who don’t have their lives together.
They’re not attracted to guys who spell trouble, who’ll never get on with their parents, who all their friends will hate, and who won’t ever be able to bring home the bacon.
Women Want Someone Who’s MATURE.
Please note: MATURE and BORING are not the same things. A properly mature guy knows how to have fun better than anyone else – and is skilled enough at it to make sure the woman he’s with is having the time of her life, too.
He has goals, both long and short-term, that he’s working on. He’s living a lifestyle that he finds acceptable and enjoyable.
He works out, eats good-quality food, and takes care of his body. His horizons are broader than beers every weekend with the guys – he has interests and hobbies and things that he’s PASSIONATE about.
Maturity doesn’t necessarily equal a nine-to-five job in the office and 2 weeks’ holiday per year.
Maturity is also the guy who works hard to get his rock band off the ground and into the charts, who spends his weekends rock-climbing, and whose best friend is his mixed-breed dog who’s shared his life for the last eight years.
It’s the guy who spent the past decade traveling around the world, working odd jobs in Peru, Argentina, and Chile because he knew he wanted to grow as a person and experience what the world had to offer.
It’s the guy who chucked in his boring, safe job as a marketing agent and invested everything into launching his own dot.com enterprise.
From a woman’s perspective, maturity means living a life that you love. Or, if you’re not quite there yet, working out how you can ATTAIN a life that you love. There is little in life that is more attractive than someone who knows what they want and has a plan to get it.
So perhaps you’d like to get out a pencil and a pad of paper and sort out some goals for yourself – can there be much more of a win-win situation than getting your life sorted and enjoyable while attracting females at the same time?
Incidentally, has a fantastic section on goal-setting that you’ll find extremely helpful as you think about what you’d like to achieve. Incidentally, has a fantastic section on goal-setting that you’ll find extremely helpful as you think about what you’d like to achieve.
3. You’re Happy That She Has a Life.
It may be an open stereotype that women are the “ball and chain” of a man’s life – but among women, it’s widely acknowledged that too many men perform the exact same function.
A lot of men are more domineering than they realize. Once they become attached to a woman, they attempt to control her life – often not even realizing that they’re doing it. And if they DO realize it, they don’t think about how it comes across to the woman or the position that that behavior puts her in.
I’m talking about the kind of behavior that stems from deep-seated insecurity – the kind of insecurity that causes jealousy. Jealousy = controlling behavior and a lot of needless grief for everyone. Jealousy is never an attractive trait to have.
A lot of men have this problem, to some extent – whether it’s sulking when the good-looking waiter winks at your girlfriend, refusing to allow her a night out on the town with her girlfriends without guilt-tripping her about how she didn’t invite you along or kicking up a stink when she has a business lunch with a hunky new employee from the office.
In fact, this is SUCH a common trait that when a woman comes across a guy who is secure enough in himself and his own personality to allow her complete and utter freedom in her own life, she rapidly becomes utterly addicted to him.
The sense of personal freedom and pleasure that comes from spending time with a man who never attempts to impose his will on how you handle your life is INCREDIBLE.
Not only because it’s so liberating – as only women who’ve experienced the boredom and frustration of a relationship with a Jealous Man can attest – but because it speaks so highly of YOUR frame of mind and security, too.
It takes incredible levels of self-esteem and confidence for the average man not to be jealous AT ALL, whether it’s a woman’s male friends, the fact that she earns more than him, or the attention she gets from other men when out and about. Such high levels, in fact, that it’s an unusual man indeed who can maintain them.
Here’s a little secret for you: the truly savvy man FAKES IT. He still feels jealousy – but he’s smart enough to recognize it for an immature and destructive emotion, and refuses outright to give it ANY airtime.
As a result, he’s EXTREMELY well-thought-of by the women he dates (as well as their friends, who get to hear first-hand how praise-worthy and how unlike other men he is).
Furthermore, he comes across to everyone else as a supremely confident man … and as we’ve already discussed, confidence is the numero uno attractor for females everywhere.
For more juicy and effective secrets on how to make yourself into the kind of man that women everywhere dream about getting their hands on, please do yourself a favor and read How to be Irresistible to women
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