The Biggest Mistake People Make on a First Date

In this episode, Waleska Latorre shares essential dating advice, emphasizing the significance of leaving emotional baggage behind on a first date. She compares the first date to an interview, where vulnerability and authenticity are key to making a positive impression. Waleska advises against presenting a guarded or overly strong persona, suggesting that a calm and open energy is more likely to lead to a second date. She encourages individuals to reveal their true selves gradually, akin to peeling an onion, to foster genuine connections.

Takeaways: 

• A first date is like an interview.
• Leave emotional baggage behind to make a good impression.
• Vulnerability allows your authentic self to shine.
• Don't present a tough exterior on a first date.
• Bring a calm and open energy to the table.
• Show your true self gradually, like peeling an onion.
• Strong qualities can be revealed later in the relationship.
• Captivating your date is essential for a second date.
• Being guarded can scare potential partners away.
• Authenticity is key to forming genuine connections.

As Waleska says, "We wanna bring in a calm energy." and "Put your guard down."


TRANSCRIPT:

Waleska Latorre (00:18)
I'm going to be telling you the number one thing to avoid when you go on a first date. If you wanna get to the second date, you will not do this one particular thing. I want you to remember that a first date is like an interview, guys. You must pass the first date before you can get to the second date. So that first date is your chance to really grab the attention of the person that you're on a date with. So one thing I want you to do when you show up on your first date is to leave behind any of that emotional baggage that you carry with you that we all carry.

Leave all of that emotional baggage behind. And I know we all carry it. We've all been hurt at some point in our lives. The thing is that if you bring that emotional baggage with you to your first date, it's going to affect how you appear to the other person. When we bring the emotional baggage to our first date, we have our guard up. And we're either A, ready to fight if we need to fight, or B, so protected that we don't allow our authentic, most beautiful self to shine through. And this is our chance to show ourselves in our best light. This is like an interview. So don't be guarded, leave that behind, and instead allow yourself to be vulnerable. It's okay to go there. 

When you're vulnerable, your date will be able to really see a glimpse of the type of person that you really are. So what happens is that if you bring yourself guarded to that first date, then your date is going to see this very tough exterior, a tough person who's independent and strong. But that's not necessarily what we want to show on that first date. You can show that a little bit later when the time is right. At the beginning, we want to be bringing a calm, beautiful energy to the table. Right? Allow yourself to sit in a peaceful energy with your guard down so that you can be as authentic as possible and that person can really get to see a little glimpse of the type of person that you are.

This is your chance to shine. Don't bring a guarded, protective energy to the table because then you're going to be seen as that type of person and the truth is that it's not who you always are. You're not always this tough person ready to fight and protect yourself if you have to. You're not always that person. You have peaceful, calm moments where you sit in your most authentic self. When you're at home alone, you're your most authentic self when no one is watching or when you're with your friends or loved ones or your family.

Don't be afraid to bring that version of you to the first date because that's the version that...